68 – Noticing and Listening: Why Awareness Matters in Leadership

This week on the Impactful Teamwork podcast, I explored two of the most underrated skills in leadership today: Noticing and Listening. As Iโ€™ve learned time and time again – through my work with horses, in my leadership retreats, and even during my sabbatical in Africa – true leadership begins with awareness.

Why Noticing Matters More Than You Think

Most of us are running so fast, we forget to stop and take in whatโ€™s around us. Yet noticing is not just a mindfulness exerciseโ€”itโ€™s a strategic leadership skill. Itโ€™s what allows us to tune in to our teamโ€™s energy, understand underlying tensions, and lead from a place of clarity and connection.

I learned this lesson the hard way during a conservation trip in Namibia. One evening around a campfire, someone asked me about my experience swimming with dolphins. Despite it being a โ€œbucket listโ€ moment, I couldnโ€™t remember a single detail. Why? Because I hadnโ€™t been present. I was so consumed by work stress and mental distractions that I missed the moment entirely.

That wake-up call was profound. It prompted me to seek more present, grounded experiencesโ€”ultimately leading me to live in the African bush and later deepen my connection with horses. These incredible animals, as prey animals, survive by being exquisitely tuned in to their surroundings. Their very lives depend on noticing.

And thatโ€™s where the leadership lessons began.

Horses as Masters of Attention

Horses notice everything: a subtle shift in energy, a change in posture, a flicker of emotion. They donโ€™t listen with their earsโ€”they listen with their whole being. And when youโ€™re around them, youโ€™re forced to do the same.

You canโ€™t fake presence with a horse. If you want to lead, you must first be worthy of being followed. That means being grounded, aware, and fully in the moment. If they sense youโ€™re distracted or unaware of whatโ€™s going on in the environment, theyโ€™ll take chargeโ€”or theyโ€™ll walk away.

Sound familiar? Thatโ€™s exactly what happens in human teams too.

Attention is Active, Not Passive

Thereโ€™s a common myth that listening is passive. That noticing is about standing still. In fact, theyโ€™re both highly active skills.

When I run equine-assisted leadership programs, the biggest challenge leaders face is staying fully present. Many want to jump into action or control the outcomeโ€”but horses require you to pause, sense, and respond appropriately.

In the business world, this is where most chaos begins. Leaders notice a problemโ€”but instead of pausing to reflect, they jump in and react. And more often than not, that reaction creates more mess than momentum.

As I often say: Leaders should notice first. Pause second. Then act.

The Diamond Model of Leadership

This principle of attention is at the core of the Diamond Model of Shared Leadershipโ„ขโ€”a model inspired by the way horse herds operate. In this model, attention sits at the top of the diamond. Itโ€™s what directs the herd (or team) toward safety, alignment, and direction.

In a herd, all members share responsibility for paying attention. When danger appears, the sentinel horses on the edge of the herd lead the way to safety. Leadership is shared, not static. Itโ€™s responsive, not rigid.

The same dynamic is critical in high-performing teams. We all must own the responsibility of noticing whatโ€™s going onโ€”in ourselves, in our colleagues, and in the wider environment.

Awakening Awareness with the Unbridled Teamship Roadmap

In my Unbridled Teamship Roadmap, one of the nine core accelerators is called Awaken the Awareness. It sits under the lever of Holistic Partnerships, because you canโ€™t build meaningful partnerships unless youโ€™re truly present and attuned.

This accelerator teaches us to:

  • Slow down and sense whatโ€™s really happening
  • Notice misalignments between intention and impact
  • Choose to respond, rather than react

When we awaken our awareness, we move from transactional team interactions to transformational partnerships. This is where trust, innovation, and sustained performance emerge.

Noticing Builds Psychological Safety

Real leadership starts with helping people feel seen, heard, and safe. Harvard Business Review contributor Zach Mercurio describes noticing as โ€œthe intentional act of making people feel seen and valued.โ€

It might sound simple, but in todayโ€™s disengaged workplaces, itโ€™s revolutionary.

When you notice someoneโ€™s effort, acknowledge their struggle, or simply give them your full attentionโ€”you create space for them to thrive. This is the true foundation of psychological safety.

I saw this play out firsthand recently while running a 400-guest restaurant pop-up at a racecourse. When back-of-house staff werenโ€™t present, the waitstaff suddenly realised how much theyโ€™d relied on those โ€œinvisibleโ€ roles. Their appreciationโ€”and attentionโ€”shifted. It was a powerful reminder that every role matters, and noticing is a form of respect.

3 Levels of Attention Every Leader Must Cultivate

Weโ€™re always listening on three levels:

  1. Self โ€“ Whatโ€™s going on in your body? Your gut instinct? Your emotional state? Our bodies are constantly giving us feedbackโ€”if only weโ€™d listen.
  2. Others โ€“ Whatโ€™s really going on for your team? Are their words congruent with their body language? Are they silently struggling?
  3. Environment โ€“ Whatโ€™s happening in the wider business context? Are there changes youโ€™re ignoring? Trends youโ€™re missing?

Failing to pay attention on any of these levels can put your businessโ€”and your peopleโ€”at risk.

Action Steps: How to Practice Noticing and Listening

Here are five simple ways to build your awareness muscle:

1. Stillness Before Strategy

Take 60 seconds of silence before each meeting to ground yourself.

2. Start with a Noticing Round

Ask your team: โ€œWhat have you noticed this weekโ€”about yourself, our team, or the environment?โ€

3. Mirror What You Sense

Say things like: โ€œI noticed you paused before respondingโ€”whatโ€™s behind that?โ€

4. Slow Your Responses

Resist the urge to fill silences. Let insights emerge in the pause.

5. Spend Time in Nature

Nature models presence. Go for a walk and observe what you hear, see, and sense.

The Final Word: Awareness is the Foundation of Great Leadership

If you take one thing from this weekโ€™s episode, let it be this:

What might you be missingโ€”about yourself, your team, or your businessโ€”simply because youโ€™re not paying attention?

When we awaken awareness, we unlock new levels of trust, clarity, and performance. Whether you’re leading a boardroom or a herd of horses, the message is the same:

Slow down. Pay attention. And lead with presence.


Curious to Go Deeper?

If you’re ready to discover how the Unbridled Teamship Roadmap can help you develop conscious, collaborative, high-performing teams, then letโ€™s talk.

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Show Notes

00:00 Introduction to Impactful Teamwork

02:00 The Importance of Noticing and Listening

03:24 Lessons from Africa and Horses

08:16 Applying Noticing in Leadership

15:22 The Diamond Model of Leadership

25:29 Practical Tips for Building Awareness

27:52ย Conclusion and Invitation

Great Leaders Make People Feel Noticed – Zach Mercurio – https://hbr.org/2025/05/great-leaders-make-people-feel-noticed