In this episode we talk around boundaries and what they mean especially in the workplace and for us both and how the horses have been masters at teaching Julia all about boundaries.
The word boundary is a word in common use and for clarity Julia defines it as “a limit, something we will permit or not into our lives”. Our boundaries define what type of person we are and therefore the opportunities that we’re going to let in our life. Often a boundary can be imagined like a fence that we’ve got around ourselves, and it’s our responsibility to ensure that that fencing is in good repair, because otherwise we’ll let things into our lives that we don’t really want.
Our physical boundaries are probably the ones that we’re most familiar with, in terms of people that we let into our personal space. There also mental and psychological boundaries as well as spiritual boundaries. So, a boundary is really shaping what we’re going to allow into our lives and why is that important? It helps create real clarity about what we want into our lives and what we don’t want into our lives.
Julia explains the problems about not setting boundaries by recalling stories with the horses. After all boundaries are there to protect us and what clients get out of working with her horses.
Andrew then shares a workplace story which leads on to a discussion around the benefits of contracting.
Julia and Andrew then discuss how anger and resentment can build up in personal relationships before summing up
Show Notes:
Here are the highlights from this episode
- What are boundaries? (00:45)
- What are the different types of boundaries? (1:37)
- Boundaries are there to protect us (2:38)
- The Aha moment – learning from the horses (3:55)
- Contracting in the workplace (5:52)
- The box model of contracting (6:20)
- Bracken teaches Julia about trust (7:12)
- Rules of the game (11:38)
- The working from home trust problem (15:15)
- The problem of not speaking up (17:11)
- Having honest conversations (18:24)
Julia Felton (aka The Business Wrangler) is the founder of Business HorsePower. Business leaders, entrepreneurs and executives hire her to accelerate their business performance by harnessing the energy of their people to work more collaboratively together. By aligning purpose with actions the team achieves exponential results as everyone starts pulling in the same direction.
Julia believes that business is a force for good and through designing purpose-driven businesses that leverage the laws of nature, and the herd, you can create businesses founded on the principles of connection, collaboration and community that make a significant impact in the world.